🧍🏽‍♀️ What to Do When You Don’t Feel Supported in Your Relationship

Love Report Card Companion – SUPPORTIVENESS (For the Unsupported Partner)

By The Amazing Clarks

“I’m tired of being strong all the time.”

You’re the one who holds it down. You figure it out. You push through. But secretly… you’re exhausted. And worse—you feel alone in your own relationship.

If you scored high in Supportiveness, but your partner scored low—or you just feel emotionally unsupported—this is your guide to reclaim your balance and ask for what you need.

🚨 Signs You’re Carrying the Emotional Load Alone

• You listen, but they don’t

• You ask how they feel—but they never ask back

• They downplay your stress or shut down emotionally

• You’ve stopped expecting them to “get it”

• You say “I’m fine” because it’s easier than explaining

This doesn’t mean they don’t love you—it means the support culture in your relationship needs an upgrade.

💡 Why They May Not Know How to Support You

• They’ve never seen real support modeled

• They confuse helping with controlling

• They feel inadequate and pull away

• They’re waiting for you to “just ask”—but you don’t want to beg

You’re not crazy for wanting more. You’re just tired of being the strong one 100% of the time.

🛠️ How to Ask for Support (Without Guilt or Shutdown)

✅ 1. Be Clear, Not Cold

Say:

“I’m not asking you to fix it. I just need to feel like I’m not alone in this.”

✅ 2. Teach Them How You Feel Supported

“When you check in, or just sit with me, I feel safer. That’s the support I need.”

✅ 3. Share the Impact, Not Just the Complaint

“When I don’t feel supported, I start to emotionally pull back—not because I want to, but because I’m tired.”

✅ 4. Protect Your Energy

If you’re not getting poured into, you need to set boundaries.

“I’m realizing I can’t keep carrying the load by myself. We need to rebalance this, or I’ll burn out.”

✍️ Self-Reflection Prompts

• Have I been clear—or just quietly resentful?

• Do I speak up early—or only after I explode?

• Am I receiving the same level of energy I give?

🎯 Ready to Be in a Partnership That Feels Like a Team?

Support shouldn’t be a luxury. It should be the foundation.

✅ Learn how to ask without apology ✅ Reset the dynamic so your needs matter too ✅ Stop over functioning and start receiving love again

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